Tying your 4 year old’s shoe is easier than teaching her how and listening to her cry with frustration each time she struggles with the task. But, do you want to be tying her shoes when she is 10?
Providing your 13 year old daughter with the 5 pairs of shoes she thinks she needs, as well as that warm winter coat, is easier than increasing her allowance, making her allocate a portion of it to needed clothing and then watching her go out in the cold without an adequate coat, because she chose to buy those 5 pairs of shoes instead of getting a warm coat. But, do you want to be providing her necessary clothes when she is 30?
Helping your twenty something son out when the payday loan people come to repossess his car is easier than letting him lose the car and watching him learn to walk or take the bus to work. But, do you want to be supporting his children (your grandchildren) when he is 40 and still so in debt that they would go hungry otherwise?
Parents aren’t being miserly or unjust if they refuse to help.
All parents know that it isn’t easy to be a parent. Often we are viewed as unjust and cruel, even by our peers (or we think we are) if we don’t bail our children out of bad situations of their own making. In fact, however, if your parent is refusing to let you continue to depend on them, you are actually being given a great gift – which hopefully someday you will realize. Continue reading